Two things men have done to make me really uncomfortable this week:
1. I had to go talk to the over-tanned, crocodile shoe wearing police officer that works at my school about a truant student and while I was talking to him he glanced at my chest at least 3 times. And not just a quick peek either. Totally inappro. When his eyes would leave my face I would forget what I was talking about and feel...ashamed...I can't think of another word for it. That sucks. And isn't fair, that that stupid man who knows nothing about me could make me feel like that...IN THE WORK PLACE.
2. There's a kid I tutor at Sylvan Learning Center who's a senior. In general I like working with the older kids more. I'm better at and its more fun for me. This kid is pretty bright he's just a poor reader. I've enjoyed working with him but recently have been suspicious that maybe he's harboring a teacher crush. My suspicions were confirmed in a highly inappropriate manner when the other day when I was helping a student on me left, I felt a foot rub up against my leg on my right. I whipped around and gave him a "What do you think you're doing?!" And he just smiled and said he was just kidding. Yikes. I thought he was almost done with his time at the tutoring center and I wouldn't have to stress about anymore teacher crush behavior. But alas, I found out he's still got quite a few hours to go. Sigh.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
An addendum to my last post
Sadie commented on my last post and pointed out how smart this friend of mine is and that after being married for almost three years it was about time she had another bridal shower.
HA HA! I agree. As long as we are throwing wedding etiquette out the window maybe I'll throw myself a bridal shower. If you can have one way after the fact why can't you have one way before the blessed event (so far even that you cannot see it in the near future)?
I need some new stuff too. I'll send you an invitation. What's your address?
HA HA! I agree. As long as we are throwing wedding etiquette out the window maybe I'll throw myself a bridal shower. If you can have one way after the fact why can't you have one way before the blessed event (so far even that you cannot see it in the near future)?
I need some new stuff too. I'll send you an invitation. What's your address?
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
A Wedding in Reverse
The awesome thing about my blog being private is that I can talk about stuff like the following:
Towards the end of October I had a friend from high school who I haven't really kept in close touch with send me a facebook message with the subject "addresses please"
It said the following:
"Updating my address book and sending out Christmas cards, send me your addresses please. I would love to send you a card."
Am I the only one that thinks that a single 24 year old woman thinking that far ahead about sending a Christmas card to her high school friends sounds a little unusual?
I wasted no time calling her bluff. And responded with:
"Christmas cards already? Are you sure your not secretly engaged and trying to surprise us? Haha."
Didn't hear anything after that UNTIL early December when I got an announcement from her that she had eloped with her boyfriend to Australia.
I thought this was totally awesome. I am a huge fan of the idea of an elopement. The older I get the more the idea of running off and not worrying about cake, flowers, dresses, seating arrangements, who to invite and who to leave out etc. sounds awesome.
I was supporting the whole thing until I realized that what I was looking at was not just an announcement but an invitation to a reception. What the?!
Isn't one of the reasons you elope so that you don't have to deal with all that stuff? I guess if you decide that you just can't wait to get married but still want to have the party with friends and fam (and all the gifts) I can understand that. So I put panty hose on and got a gift and went to the reception. It was formal. She was in her dress there were rented tuxes, there was a cake and flowers. In short it was a wedding. But the marriage was two months previous in Australia and nobody at the reception was invited to it.
I thought that was the end of that until this week when I got an invitation in the mail for a BRIDAL SHOWER for this same friend.
No. I will not. This is asking too much. If you wanted a shower with all the gifts and everyone to hem and haw at you and your engagement and marriage and what a pretty bride you'll be you should have followed all the rules. You broke the biggest rule which I think is awesome but you're undoing all of the awesomeness by doing all the things you forfeited by eloping.
I'm not going to the shower. I won't.
I'm not getting married. Not because I don't think I'll ever find a man to pop the question but because I don't see any way to have a fun wedding that highlights the importance of the event without all the stress and formalities.
Humbug.
Towards the end of October I had a friend from high school who I haven't really kept in close touch with send me a facebook message with the subject "addresses please"
It said the following:
"Updating my address book and sending out Christmas cards, send me your addresses please. I would love to send you a card."
Am I the only one that thinks that a single 24 year old woman thinking that far ahead about sending a Christmas card to her high school friends sounds a little unusual?
I wasted no time calling her bluff. And responded with:
"Christmas cards already? Are you sure your not secretly engaged and trying to surprise us? Haha."
Didn't hear anything after that UNTIL early December when I got an announcement from her that she had eloped with her boyfriend to Australia.
I thought this was totally awesome. I am a huge fan of the idea of an elopement. The older I get the more the idea of running off and not worrying about cake, flowers, dresses, seating arrangements, who to invite and who to leave out etc. sounds awesome.
I was supporting the whole thing until I realized that what I was looking at was not just an announcement but an invitation to a reception. What the?!
Isn't one of the reasons you elope so that you don't have to deal with all that stuff? I guess if you decide that you just can't wait to get married but still want to have the party with friends and fam (and all the gifts) I can understand that. So I put panty hose on and got a gift and went to the reception. It was formal. She was in her dress there were rented tuxes, there was a cake and flowers. In short it was a wedding. But the marriage was two months previous in Australia and nobody at the reception was invited to it.
I thought that was the end of that until this week when I got an invitation in the mail for a BRIDAL SHOWER for this same friend.
No. I will not. This is asking too much. If you wanted a shower with all the gifts and everyone to hem and haw at you and your engagement and marriage and what a pretty bride you'll be you should have followed all the rules. You broke the biggest rule which I think is awesome but you're undoing all of the awesomeness by doing all the things you forfeited by eloping.
I'm not going to the shower. I won't.
I'm not getting married. Not because I don't think I'll ever find a man to pop the question but because I don't see any way to have a fun wedding that highlights the importance of the event without all the stress and formalities.
Humbug.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
More on Truth and some other stuff
Guess who said the following:
"Truth has power, And if we all gravitate toward similar ideas, maybe we do so because those ideas are true...written deep within us. And when we hear the truth, even if we don't understand it, we feel that truth resonate within us...vibrating with out unconscious wisdom. Perhaps the truth is not learned by us, but with our unconscious wisdom. Perhaps the truth is not learned by us, but rather, the truth is re-called...re-membered...re-cogniazed...as that which is already inside us."
(..........)
Its a quote from a book I'm reading which I'm slightly embarrassed to admit is Dan Brown's new book The Lost Symbol (I'm not embarrassed to be reading it but I am embarrassed to be quoting it).
The reason why I brought it up is because I'm really interested in the idea of truth. In my head truth is something that people from all backgrounds, time, countries, religions agrees upon whether consciously or unconsciously.
One of the things I love about studying history is seeing the constants and patterns that occur. There are some things that exist in all civilizations. Everyone needs food, water, shelter etc. In every civilization there is love, fear, greed, pride etc. In every civilization there is a religious explanation for their existence. There is a plural or singular deity. Most have an explanation for what happens after death.
And although the details might be different, the time, language, and places are different the ideas are essentially the same. And its within those similarities that you find truth.
Like the quote above says; truth is not something learned but remembered. Its something that our spirit, that part of ourselves that most easily recalls God, knows and tries to tell us if we can be quiet enough.
I've read all three of Dan Brown's Robert Langdon series (Da Vinci Code, Angels and Demons, and The Lost Symbol) and while I think he's a great action packed, thriller writer he is not the religous expert people have given him the credit for being. He is first and foremost an entertainer. I think his style and purpose for writing are the same as Hollywood's. Its all about flashiness and shock and awe. When everyone was peeing their pants over the Da Vinci Code I couldn't believe the uproar that was caused within the Christian world. This guy wasn't an expert, he wasn't a religous leader or theologian. He's just a writer trying to sell some books. He has an interest in puzzles and riddles and an education in art history. That's it. So why did everyone freak out about the claims he made in his FICTIONAL NOVEL (spoiler alert: As a Mormon I think the idea of Christ having a wife makes total sense. I would never dare to venture that Mary was his wife on this earth and its an even bigger stretch to assume he has descendants but having the understanding I do about marriage and how it pertains to eternal life I don't understand how He couldn't be married.)
The thing that I like about reading Dan Brown's stuff is he gets so close to the truth and he always sets it up like its this incredible revelation. Like in the one I'm reading now he points out that all major religions teach that there is some point in the future where men will be more enlightened than they are now. He states that the apocolypse doesn't mean the end of the world it means the end of the world as we know it. Um, I hate to sound like a know it all but I already knew that. So many things he sets up as the this big scandalous thing like "apotheosis" which means the process by which man becomes like God. The characters in the book are so surprised that prominent men in history strived for such a thing but it seems like a pretty regular idea to me. Isn't the point of most (all?) religion to become more divine?
I also like that he writes characters that believe that science and religion can not only exist together but that they confirm each other.
I haven't finished Symbol yet so I can't weigh in on how I feel about it yet.
That's all really. Its a little scattered. Also I like that Langdon is a former water polo player.
"Truth has power, And if we all gravitate toward similar ideas, maybe we do so because those ideas are true...written deep within us. And when we hear the truth, even if we don't understand it, we feel that truth resonate within us...vibrating with out unconscious wisdom. Perhaps the truth is not learned by us, but with our unconscious wisdom. Perhaps the truth is not learned by us, but rather, the truth is re-called...re-membered...re-cogniazed...as that which is already inside us."
(..........)
Its a quote from a book I'm reading which I'm slightly embarrassed to admit is Dan Brown's new book The Lost Symbol (I'm not embarrassed to be reading it but I am embarrassed to be quoting it).
The reason why I brought it up is because I'm really interested in the idea of truth. In my head truth is something that people from all backgrounds, time, countries, religions agrees upon whether consciously or unconsciously.
One of the things I love about studying history is seeing the constants and patterns that occur. There are some things that exist in all civilizations. Everyone needs food, water, shelter etc. In every civilization there is love, fear, greed, pride etc. In every civilization there is a religious explanation for their existence. There is a plural or singular deity. Most have an explanation for what happens after death.
And although the details might be different, the time, language, and places are different the ideas are essentially the same. And its within those similarities that you find truth.
Like the quote above says; truth is not something learned but remembered. Its something that our spirit, that part of ourselves that most easily recalls God, knows and tries to tell us if we can be quiet enough.
I've read all three of Dan Brown's Robert Langdon series (Da Vinci Code, Angels and Demons, and The Lost Symbol) and while I think he's a great action packed, thriller writer he is not the religous expert people have given him the credit for being. He is first and foremost an entertainer. I think his style and purpose for writing are the same as Hollywood's. Its all about flashiness and shock and awe. When everyone was peeing their pants over the Da Vinci Code I couldn't believe the uproar that was caused within the Christian world. This guy wasn't an expert, he wasn't a religous leader or theologian. He's just a writer trying to sell some books. He has an interest in puzzles and riddles and an education in art history. That's it. So why did everyone freak out about the claims he made in his FICTIONAL NOVEL (spoiler alert: As a Mormon I think the idea of Christ having a wife makes total sense. I would never dare to venture that Mary was his wife on this earth and its an even bigger stretch to assume he has descendants but having the understanding I do about marriage and how it pertains to eternal life I don't understand how He couldn't be married.)
The thing that I like about reading Dan Brown's stuff is he gets so close to the truth and he always sets it up like its this incredible revelation. Like in the one I'm reading now he points out that all major religions teach that there is some point in the future where men will be more enlightened than they are now. He states that the apocolypse doesn't mean the end of the world it means the end of the world as we know it. Um, I hate to sound like a know it all but I already knew that. So many things he sets up as the this big scandalous thing like "apotheosis" which means the process by which man becomes like God. The characters in the book are so surprised that prominent men in history strived for such a thing but it seems like a pretty regular idea to me. Isn't the point of most (all?) religion to become more divine?
I also like that he writes characters that believe that science and religion can not only exist together but that they confirm each other.
I haven't finished Symbol yet so I can't weigh in on how I feel about it yet.
That's all really. Its a little scattered. Also I like that Langdon is a former water polo player.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Dear Readers,
To Sadie, Kerrie, Beckie and Jill (those are the people that I know for sure read this...)
And to whoever else this may concern,
I've decided to go private. So if you want to continue to read my very long, unnecessary posts please send me an email at hahandy@gmail.com and I will gladly add you.
I welcome everyone who reads me. Even if you're in the closet (not the gay kind) and I don't know about you.
Love,
Heather
And to whoever else this may concern,
I've decided to go private. So if you want to continue to read my very long, unnecessary posts please send me an email at hahandy@gmail.com and I will gladly add you.
I welcome everyone who reads me. Even if you're in the closet (not the gay kind) and I don't know about you.
Love,
Heather
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